Sibling rivalry
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Childhood is blended with many feelings – love, care, pampering, jealousy and many more and when jealousy turns into competition between siblings and it leads to rivalry between them.
Being a parent, it is our duty to keep sibling rivalry to its minimum at our home.Here are few tips for managing siblings that will help you to handle rivalry between your kids:
Make sure you are not teaching your kids to wrestle. Kids barely come up with their own ideas. They just imitate what they perceive from surrounding, so if they see you and your husband constantly fighting and arguing with each other, they will have more reasons and fuel to perfect the skill of sibling rivalry. So instead of fighting with each other in front of your kids, you should respect and admire each other, even if you are annoyed with each other.
Don’t compare your children with each other. Remember that all children are created equal but they are not same. Recognize each child’s strengths and skills, and try to enhance them with proper direction and help them to overcome their weaknesses.
Don’t let your kids compete for your attention. When a child feels like they are being paid less attention than his/her sibling, sometimes they think negative attention is better than no consideration and to seek your attention they start a fight with a sibling.
Kids are so involved with their own feelings that they don’t understand what you are saying. Let them know you understand both of them, and try to sort out their problem by listening to both of them.
Teach to respect each other; don’t let your children to insult each other. Words are very powerful; they hurt a lot and the emotional scars they create takes a long to heal. So, teach your children to be kind and to appreciate each other
Let your child express his/her feelings about their siblings, make them feel that you understand them, their feelings and their anger. It will help them feel better.
Siblings can create stress but guiding them properly can overcome all their problems. You should teach them how to share, how to deal face to face with jealousy and how to accept each other’s weaknesses and strengths. Sibling rivalry is inevitable, but still there are some ways to teach children to deal with each other after all they are siblings forever.
