How to deal your emotions when you secretly love one child more
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It is very well said that all parents love their children equally but is it really true? This is true in most of the cases but sometimes unexpectedly parents fail to give equal treatment to their children, especially in case of moms.
Generally, younger child gets more love than his or her elder brother or sister or it may happen that mom showers her love more to her son than daughter. In other words, we can say that it is partial parenting and every parent should carefully deal with it.
Partial parenting affects the children in a negative sense and also sometimes creates misunderstandings in the minds of children about their parents. So in order to avoid this and to have a happy family, you have to behave carefully with your children. It's not like just treat your children identically but try to give fair treatment to your children so you can have a healthy parents-children relationship. A good and frequent parent-children communication helps both the parents to understand each other.
Parents who show favoritism to one child cause a problem for other children involving favored one. For avoiding the effects of partial parenting, parents have to control their feeling of partiality. Though parents cannot easily change their feelings but at least they can try to be alert on their actions. If parents can successfully do this, then they will be able to perfect their less-favored children.
Sometimes it also happens that parents intentionally make comparisons between their children, just to motivate them but everytime it may be impossible for the child to understand such behavior of their parents and take it in a positive way. Child partiality may result in a negative impact and children may take it in a wrong sense so, the first step towards combating the effects of comparison is to understand your children's mindset and on that basis set your behavior with the children.
When you secretly love your one child more, at that time you can continue with your behavior but make sure that it doesn't create any bad effect on other child, and if possible, try to avoid partiality between kids in order to become a healthy and happy family.
